Fear is always about something that has not happened and yet
it stops life or, your preferred way of living (if even aware of this).
“It’s just something the mind does to lock you from looking at you”.
Mind ceates a false sense of secutiy; a temporary form of survival. When you take steps into the unknown and leave behind the safe walls of what you know, challenges will surface, try not to be preturbed by these.
You say “I’m too scared.”
Try to see any fears rising as an illusion, since it’s about stuff that has not happened it has to be a projection of the mind. Although, I do understand when illusions appear how real it feels.
“By identifying with a certain feeling you start believing, thus become.”
Consequently dealing with strong emotions that fear creates which are re-ACT-ions. Emotions played out are for sure no fun, especially when developed into panick or anxiety attacks. This is no fun at all.
There are ways to approach this.
By very simply seeing through a different perspective. literally and visually.
“You can start to embrace, open, even play with your fears.”
When you start taking steps for change, don’t let fear stop you from locking into acts of emotion creating a false sense of security, keeping you in mundane patterns of sleep.
Fear is there to wake you up!
Once you’ve learned how to switch them to the positive you will marvel at how they fuel and charge into a positive. You will have to find the strength inside, which you have, and stand strong like a mountain. Tell yourself there is no turning back and continue learning to rest in moments of reaction and continue. Eventually, you will remain neutral and nonreactive so you can live your life with the opportunities it presents.
“If your circuitry patterns keep you avoiding fears, start to use them, dont avoid them. They spark our senses and thrive aliveness”.
Fears and phobias are never about the subject itself but projections of our hidden insecurities. Fear creates illusionary situations for you to avoid facing that insecurity OR deceives you into making fear-based decisions that present more problems.
It’s just something the mind does to lock you from looking at you.
The best way to refine these feelings and reactions are to approach when the mind is in a state of relaxation. When the mind relaxes you can heal, you can breathe into freedom and you can move past fear.
A phobia is a projection of a much deeper fear hidden in the subconscious. Often starts from childhood memory labeled as a bad experience, or something you decided you now don’t like based on that one time experience. The more resistance to the object/person/event overtime, the bigger the projection. As it amplifies and forms itself into psychodrama, stopping you in life.
On one hand, fear can be a great helper and save your life, on the other fear can keep you locked in the illusion of being safe, so you avoid things in life, keeping you behind closed doors and from many beautiful new experiences in life.
We all express our fears differently from each other. Some internal where your psychodrama implodes, you attacking you or self sabotage. Externally psycho drama projects on others often transferring the feeling or finding blame. Both have the capacity to project in 2 different ways:
You suffer in silence and hide, create lies to hide and believe your lies, we know this as denial. When pushed into the cellular where over time, manifests as disease and ailment of the physical body. Denial is tricky as its subliminal ways make it difficult for the person to perceive their own reality and often masquerades itself by accomplices such as food, alcohol and other substances. Suppressing and taking the edge of contracted murky feelings to painful for the barer to confront. This temporary fix has detriment effects of self-sabotage leading to dependency and addictions. The dependency to lean to any form of a material or social circle that cushions and comforts for you to escape pain or fear thus possibly fueling the addictive nature.
You play out the drama by finding blame to cover up your fear, also denial. Leaves you feeling really bad about yourself often turn to self-abuse verbally or self-harm, punishing self, anything to avoid looking at your fears.
For example, a group of you are on holiday. Alice has a fear of water. She doesn’t inform the group about her fear when they plan a boat trip to the beach. Instead, Alice pretends all is okay, has an important call to make.
“I’ll meet you guys down there.” She affirms.
Two hours later no sign of Alice, the girls start wondering where she is. Meanwhile, Alice sits alone with her deepest darkest demons who play out their psychodramas, in her head.
She starts feeling left out, dumped, rejected, abandoned, fears become paranoias. She starts to create the story they left her behind. These are unpleasant emotions and insecurities to be left alone with and totally unnecessary to go through. By the time Alice takes herself down the beach via the road, she arrives fuming because she believes her made-up story. She will believe anything rather than face her fear. The girls are completely taken back when Alice storms past furiously, accusing they left without her.
Alice’s fear for water transpires when she confides to one of the girls who created a safe space for her. The onset of her actual fear may be a near death drowning experience as a child or maybe fear of grief, perhaps someone she loves drowned and left her. It would make sense after relating her fears of water with abandonment.
Alice create the story that overpowers her fear so she doesn’t have to face her actual fear.
Relating her fear of water with abandonment as something to blame for her fear, removes her from facing her fear.
Living in fear is is no way to live.
When you see how the subliminal take place, where you can talk your way into-and-out-of anything, ask yourself:
How much do you trust this voice of fear inside?
Why give it the time of day when all it does is lock you in suffering?
Your fears can be your greatest teaching
You can move past fear. Try not to fight or avoid fear. Approach gently, play with and explore. Talk about your fears, let them breathe, share with your friends and loved ones whom you feel comfortable to confide in what you are frightened of, the more they come into awareness and bring them to light, the more opportunity you create to dissolve them.
When fears, complexes, and insecurities arise step by step, breathe into and absorb the sensations as that come up. Take your time. Find more in Moving past fear recording after listening to Master relaxation.